Some people use horoscopes and astrology signs to determine whether they are compatible with other people, especially in relationships. The positive and negatives of each sign are mere generalizations. However, some people are comforted by those general attributes.
Likewise, you can always put together the pros and cons of characters with each other in their potential relationships.
JACK and KATE.
Pros: Both have lost Daddy issues so they have a common focus.
Cons: Jack tries to fix his problems to gain his father's favor, while Kate runs away from her problems.
SAWYER and KATE.
Pros: Both have a reckless, wild and manipulative to criminal mindset.
Cons: Both have a reckless, wild and manipulative to criminal mindset.
SAYID and SHANNON.
Pros: Both feel abandoned by their families but for different reasons.
Cons: He is sentimental while she is too selfish.
LOCKE and HELEN.
Pros: Both longed to have their own family.
Cons: Locke was obsessed with his past to not see a hopeful future with Helen. Helen was too naive and supportive of Locke to tell that he would never change.
HURLEY and LIBBY.
Pros: Both tend to be introverted followers with an easy sense of humor.
Cons: Both have hidden emotional and psychological scars that block them from opening up to others.
CHARLIE and CLAIRE.
Pros: Youthful spirits that are trying to run away from their personal faults and failures.
Cons: Charlie's addictive personality traits and Claire's psychological paranoia to the pressure of family life.
JIN and SUN.
Pros: They share the same culture but from different parts of the social spectrum. They are both rebellious against their position in life. They share a similar goal.
Cons: Their personal ambitions lead to personality conflicts with other people. Personal goals outweigh relationship goals.
DANIEL and CHARLOTTE.
Pros: An analytical and practical mind tend to work well together as a team.
Cons: Daniel's sheltered life with his dominant mother makes it difficult for him to communicate, while Charlotte's personal drive stifles other people around her.
As in real life, the LOST characters' relationships had their strong points and their weaknesses. In the eight relationships noted above, five failed. One was a dubious affair and the other two bonded apparently in the after life.
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Saturday, March 24, 2018
Monday, August 24, 2015
HAPPY NEWS TO MARRIED COUPLES
The reaction of happy married couples to news is now news.
New York Magazine report sunder the heading of this question:
Have you ever waited with excitement to share some amazingly good news with your partner, only to experience a surge of frustration and resentment when he or she barely reacts to your announcement?
As a society, we place a huge amount of emphasis on being there for each other when we’re in need, but past research has actually shown that relationship satisfaction is influenced as much, if not more, by how we react to each other’s good news. Whereas emotional support from a partner when we’re down can have the unfortunate side-effect of making us feel indebted and more aware of our negative emotions, a partner’s positive reaction to our good news can magnify the benefits of that good fortune and make us feel closer to them.
An unusual brain scan study, published recently in Human Brain Mapping, has added to this picture, showing that the relationship satisfaction of longtime married elderly women is particularly related to the neural activity they show in response to their husbands’ displays of positive emotion, rather than negative emotion.
Psychologist Raluca Petrican at the Rotman Research Institute in Toronto and her colleagues at the University of Toronto recruited 14 women with an average age of 72 who’d been married for an average of 40 years. The researchers scanned these women’s brains as they watched some carefully prepared videos.
The silent ten-second videos showed each woman’s husband or a stranger displaying an emotion that mismatched the way the video clip was labeled in a one-sentence description on the screen. For example, the clip might show the husband smiling or laughing about a happy memory (such as the first house they bought), but the video was labeled misleadingly to suggest that the man was showing this emotion while talking about a sad memory (such as the time he got fired). Other videos showed the reverse mismatch: a negative emotional display, ostensibly shown while talking about the memory of a happy event.
Essentially, the videos were designed to make the women feel like they were seeing their husband or the stranger display a surprising emotional reaction that didn’t match their own feelings. The real-world equivalent would be a situation in which a husband is happy about something that his wife doesn’t “get”; and the questions are whether she will notice, and whether she is she more sensitive to this in congruent emotion in her husband than she would be in a stranger.
The first important finding to emerge from this setup was that the women showed enhanced overall brain activity — which suggests more mental and emotional neural processing — when watching the videos of their husbands compared with videos of the strangers, but only when the videos showed displays of surprisingly in congruent positive emotion. During the other types of videos (when the men appeared to display strangely negative emotion), the women’s brains showed just as much overall activity when watching a stranger as when watching their husband. In other words, their levels of whole-brain activity betrayed a special sensitivity to their husband’s (versus a stranger’s) unexpected positive emotion.
This jibes with the past research that’s shown it’s our response to our partners’ positive news that is all-important for relationship satisfaction. Remember that these women had been married for decades, so it’s likely that they and their husbands have been doing something right relationship-wise. The brain-imaging data suggest part of the reason might be that the women are acutely tuned to when their husbands are showing happiness that’s personal to them (rather than common to both partners).
This specific interpretation trips up a little with another main result: The women’s levels of marital satisfaction (according to a questionnaire) correlated with the amount of neural processing they showed in response to their husbands positive and negative emotion.
However, the special importance of how we respond to our partners’ positive emotion was supported by another key finding. Namely, women who scored higher on relationship satisfaction showed more brain activation in regions thought to contain mirror neurons (neurons that are considered important for empathy) when watching their spouses than they did when watching a stranger. Moreover, this enhanced mirror-neuron activity was especially present for the videos showing their husbands’ positive, rather than negative, emotion. Again, this appears to support the idea that marital happiness goes hand in hand with sensitivity to our partners’ positive emotion (though the researchers acknowledge a different or complementary interpretation that people in happy relationships have a suppressed response to their partners’ in congruent negative emotion).
We need to interpret these preliminary and complex findings with caution. And the exclusive focus on wives’ reactions to their husbands’ emotions does lend the study a slightly retro ’70s vibe — what about the way that husbands respond to their wives’ emotions, and the importance of that for the marital happiness of both parties? But that said, the results are tantalizing in suggesting that at a neural level, people in a long-term, committed relationship are especially sensitive to their partners’ positive emotion, and particularly so when this emotion is different from their own. This neatly complements other research showing, for example, that people who are unable to differentiate their partners’ emotions from their own (they assume they’re the same), tend to be viewed by their partners as more controlling and smothering.
As a whole, this entire body of research gives pause for thought. How do you react when your partner arrives home on an emotional high? Would you only notice if you were feeling happy too?
Positive responses to positive emotions makes a married couples more positive toward each other. It also goes to show that when a partner is "indifferent" to their significant other's news or needs, the relationship can quickly turn toxic. There is a probability of negative reinforcement that will gradually build between couples because they think since they are together, they should each feel the same toward each other. In most cases, that is probably true. But in every relationship, there is a roller coaster ride of highs and low points. Listening, respect and trust are the most important factors to get through any rough times. If one can try to mine a nugget of positive out of a negative situation, it is better for everyone.
New York Magazine report sunder the heading of this question:
Have you ever waited with excitement to share some amazingly good news with your partner, only to experience a surge of frustration and resentment when he or she barely reacts to your announcement?
As a society, we place a huge amount of emphasis on being there for each other when we’re in need, but past research has actually shown that relationship satisfaction is influenced as much, if not more, by how we react to each other’s good news. Whereas emotional support from a partner when we’re down can have the unfortunate side-effect of making us feel indebted and more aware of our negative emotions, a partner’s positive reaction to our good news can magnify the benefits of that good fortune and make us feel closer to them.
An unusual brain scan study, published recently in Human Brain Mapping, has added to this picture, showing that the relationship satisfaction of longtime married elderly women is particularly related to the neural activity they show in response to their husbands’ displays of positive emotion, rather than negative emotion.
Psychologist Raluca Petrican at the Rotman Research Institute in Toronto and her colleagues at the University of Toronto recruited 14 women with an average age of 72 who’d been married for an average of 40 years. The researchers scanned these women’s brains as they watched some carefully prepared videos.
The silent ten-second videos showed each woman’s husband or a stranger displaying an emotion that mismatched the way the video clip was labeled in a one-sentence description on the screen. For example, the clip might show the husband smiling or laughing about a happy memory (such as the first house they bought), but the video was labeled misleadingly to suggest that the man was showing this emotion while talking about a sad memory (such as the time he got fired). Other videos showed the reverse mismatch: a negative emotional display, ostensibly shown while talking about the memory of a happy event.
Essentially, the videos were designed to make the women feel like they were seeing their husband or the stranger display a surprising emotional reaction that didn’t match their own feelings. The real-world equivalent would be a situation in which a husband is happy about something that his wife doesn’t “get”; and the questions are whether she will notice, and whether she is she more sensitive to this in congruent emotion in her husband than she would be in a stranger.
The first important finding to emerge from this setup was that the women showed enhanced overall brain activity — which suggests more mental and emotional neural processing — when watching the videos of their husbands compared with videos of the strangers, but only when the videos showed displays of surprisingly in congruent positive emotion. During the other types of videos (when the men appeared to display strangely negative emotion), the women’s brains showed just as much overall activity when watching a stranger as when watching their husband. In other words, their levels of whole-brain activity betrayed a special sensitivity to their husband’s (versus a stranger’s) unexpected positive emotion.
This jibes with the past research that’s shown it’s our response to our partners’ positive news that is all-important for relationship satisfaction. Remember that these women had been married for decades, so it’s likely that they and their husbands have been doing something right relationship-wise. The brain-imaging data suggest part of the reason might be that the women are acutely tuned to when their husbands are showing happiness that’s personal to them (rather than common to both partners).
This specific interpretation trips up a little with another main result: The women’s levels of marital satisfaction (according to a questionnaire) correlated with the amount of neural processing they showed in response to their husbands positive and negative emotion.
However, the special importance of how we respond to our partners’ positive emotion was supported by another key finding. Namely, women who scored higher on relationship satisfaction showed more brain activation in regions thought to contain mirror neurons (neurons that are considered important for empathy) when watching their spouses than they did when watching a stranger. Moreover, this enhanced mirror-neuron activity was especially present for the videos showing their husbands’ positive, rather than negative, emotion. Again, this appears to support the idea that marital happiness goes hand in hand with sensitivity to our partners’ positive emotion (though the researchers acknowledge a different or complementary interpretation that people in happy relationships have a suppressed response to their partners’ in congruent negative emotion).
We need to interpret these preliminary and complex findings with caution. And the exclusive focus on wives’ reactions to their husbands’ emotions does lend the study a slightly retro ’70s vibe — what about the way that husbands respond to their wives’ emotions, and the importance of that for the marital happiness of both parties? But that said, the results are tantalizing in suggesting that at a neural level, people in a long-term, committed relationship are especially sensitive to their partners’ positive emotion, and particularly so when this emotion is different from their own. This neatly complements other research showing, for example, that people who are unable to differentiate their partners’ emotions from their own (they assume they’re the same), tend to be viewed by their partners as more controlling and smothering.
As a whole, this entire body of research gives pause for thought. How do you react when your partner arrives home on an emotional high? Would you only notice if you were feeling happy too?
Positive responses to positive emotions makes a married couples more positive toward each other. It also goes to show that when a partner is "indifferent" to their significant other's news or needs, the relationship can quickly turn toxic. There is a probability of negative reinforcement that will gradually build between couples because they think since they are together, they should each feel the same toward each other. In most cases, that is probably true. But in every relationship, there is a roller coaster ride of highs and low points. Listening, respect and trust are the most important factors to get through any rough times. If one can try to mine a nugget of positive out of a negative situation, it is better for everyone.
Saturday, March 2, 2013
LOST: THE POSITIVES
One of the commentators predictions was that LOST fans would be debating the series for years and years after its end. Well, that has not occurred; most LOST fan blogs have faded away or gone into web tombstones. The clear reason for this anticipation to disconnect was Season 6 and the run-up to the finale. It separated long time LOST fans into two camps: those who loved the ending and those who hated it. There were very few diplomats in the middle.
Since we have discussed the episodes during the reboot (reruns on extended cable) during the past year, this site is at its own transition period. Thus, the new header graphic.
So we will take a sporadic look back at the bigger issues that encapsulated the series. We will begin with THE POSITIVES:
1. There were several stellar performances by several actors in the series, especially Michael Emerson and Terry O'Quinn.
2. The grand scale of the series was a return to the sweeping miniseries of the 1970s television. The structure of each episode building up the last to foreshadow future events was the hook that caught many viewers early on in the series. The epic setting of a tropical island infused with science fiction mystery and danger kept the core audience in the show until the end.
3. The initial premise of surviving a plane crash and then surviving on a mysterious island was an appealing concept. The original ABC executives wanted a show that combined Survivor and Robinson Crusoe; JJ Abrams was brought on board when he said "why not add a monster" to the equation.
4. The show kept to its original themes, to an extreme. The characters had their own personal secrets and demons which were revealed slowly in flashbacks. The characters also had major personality flaws such as "daddy issues," "criminal behavior" and "compulsive lying."
5. The diversity of the cast allowed fans to become attached to characters. The most popular character was Hurley, played by Jorge Garcia. In some ways, he evolved into the proxy for the show's viewers. He was the observer to the action that swirled around him. And like us, he questioned what was going on.
6. TPTB claimed that the show was all about the characters. Character development was the driving force for show which culminated in the happy ending finale. People who enjoyed the ending scene will tell you that they believe the struggles and redemptive moments of sacrifice should have rewarded the characters in their vision of the afterlife.
7. The series created one of the first and largest on-line show communities in television history. It spawned fan sites, fan discussion, fan theories, fan fiction and fan treatises in form of books or collection of columns. It created a cottage industry for some people whose lives revolved around the show from week to week. And through these relationships, many new friendships were created between community members as a result of their connection to the show.
8. For many viewers, the emotional roller coaster ride was a complex examination of faith, hope, romance and the power of redemption through belief in the best of what moves mankind. In some respects, many critics found it appealing that the show, even at its climax, allowed each viewer to make a personal determination of the end. The show did not give one final answer, but many more questions which for some, did not really matter.
9. No matter how you viewed The End, it did represent a clear and final closure for the series.
10. LOST was one of the few series that made you think. It made you want to go out and research what you saw on the small screen. I learned about ancient Egyptian myth and religious beliefs as a result of trying to figure out the clues in the show. Other people learned about physics, quantum mechanics, wormholes, space-time theories, etc. And those discussions were like college bull sessions - - - the debates will endless but respectful. It made many fans into researchers and theorists. It made the show last for more than an hour each week to a daily dissection of the last episode or last season. It is extremely rare for a show to have a rabid fan base break apart the mythology of a show while it is in progress (which seems to happen more with science fiction shows than any other norm.)
Since we have discussed the episodes during the reboot (reruns on extended cable) during the past year, this site is at its own transition period. Thus, the new header graphic.
So we will take a sporadic look back at the bigger issues that encapsulated the series. We will begin with THE POSITIVES:
1. There were several stellar performances by several actors in the series, especially Michael Emerson and Terry O'Quinn.
2. The grand scale of the series was a return to the sweeping miniseries of the 1970s television. The structure of each episode building up the last to foreshadow future events was the hook that caught many viewers early on in the series. The epic setting of a tropical island infused with science fiction mystery and danger kept the core audience in the show until the end.
3. The initial premise of surviving a plane crash and then surviving on a mysterious island was an appealing concept. The original ABC executives wanted a show that combined Survivor and Robinson Crusoe; JJ Abrams was brought on board when he said "why not add a monster" to the equation.
4. The show kept to its original themes, to an extreme. The characters had their own personal secrets and demons which were revealed slowly in flashbacks. The characters also had major personality flaws such as "daddy issues," "criminal behavior" and "compulsive lying."
5. The diversity of the cast allowed fans to become attached to characters. The most popular character was Hurley, played by Jorge Garcia. In some ways, he evolved into the proxy for the show's viewers. He was the observer to the action that swirled around him. And like us, he questioned what was going on.
6. TPTB claimed that the show was all about the characters. Character development was the driving force for show which culminated in the happy ending finale. People who enjoyed the ending scene will tell you that they believe the struggles and redemptive moments of sacrifice should have rewarded the characters in their vision of the afterlife.
7. The series created one of the first and largest on-line show communities in television history. It spawned fan sites, fan discussion, fan theories, fan fiction and fan treatises in form of books or collection of columns. It created a cottage industry for some people whose lives revolved around the show from week to week. And through these relationships, many new friendships were created between community members as a result of their connection to the show.
8. For many viewers, the emotional roller coaster ride was a complex examination of faith, hope, romance and the power of redemption through belief in the best of what moves mankind. In some respects, many critics found it appealing that the show, even at its climax, allowed each viewer to make a personal determination of the end. The show did not give one final answer, but many more questions which for some, did not really matter.
9. No matter how you viewed The End, it did represent a clear and final closure for the series.
10. LOST was one of the few series that made you think. It made you want to go out and research what you saw on the small screen. I learned about ancient Egyptian myth and religious beliefs as a result of trying to figure out the clues in the show. Other people learned about physics, quantum mechanics, wormholes, space-time theories, etc. And those discussions were like college bull sessions - - - the debates will endless but respectful. It made many fans into researchers and theorists. It made the show last for more than an hour each week to a daily dissection of the last episode or last season. It is extremely rare for a show to have a rabid fan base break apart the mythology of a show while it is in progress (which seems to happen more with science fiction shows than any other norm.)
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